Robert Kirby Blog

Why Change Does Not Last? Part 1 of 3

Fri, 18 May 2012 06:04:00 GMT

Part I - Theory & Cognition

The available theories today on change could choke forty elephants. Promises of a quick fix are abundant. Since the study of human transformation has been at the center of my life for well over two decades, I am qualified to warn you against being seduced by powerfully marketed programs that promise you quick change. These false promises have given the personal development field a suspicious reputation. Experienced and well trained facilitators and alternative therapists disclose to their clients and participants that transformation is layered.

Today even modern psychologists primarily work with cognitive behavioural therapy known as CBT. It uses brief intervention and then onto the medication. They work on issues or symptoms and not the cause of problems. The results are good but they do not last.

Another modality known as neuro-linguistic programing (NLP) is one of dozens of cognitive based work that ignore what is embodied. Various forms of group hype will also temporarily ignite someone’s faith.

WHY IS IT SO DIFFICULT TO CHANGE?

Human behaviour is learned and modelled after others. Yes some of it is instinctive; however it is always based on unconscious drives and beliefs. They were put in place by conditioning from the environment (our families) and from intense overwhelming experiences that causes trauma.

Thoughts are generated by feelings that bubble up from the unconscious. They are often childish and immature. Our unconscious emotional turmoil or joy & happiness are generated from our bodies’ cellular memory and from its surrounding energy field.

Over time these beliefs and experiences create habits that are extremely tough to break. We become defended in both our identity and our character. We do this to protect ourselves from experiencing more pain, fear and doubt.

Accordingly, quick fix solution never, ever last because they cannot circumvent these deeply held patterns. You can take this to the bank. Avoid these theories & false promises like you would the plague.

So then, what critical cognitions (insights) should you take from this information? First and foremost that transformation is a process and not an event. And secondly, these processes are layered and must always include:

1) your body & mind

2) your soul

3) your energy of life & consciousness ( awareness )

This is the comprehensive theory of transformation & lasting change that we are offering. The results we consistently achieve for people just like you will give you a new life & a fresh start. Interested? Please click here.

In Part II you will learn about our methods of process & transformation.

The Hero's Journey

Thu, 02 Feb 2012 23:00:00 GMT

The Hero’s Journey

‘What happened to the male identity?’ Part 1 By Robert Kirby

Hey guys,

Have you observed how uncertain modern men are? The new generation of males seem to have confused open hearted vulnerability with passivity and uncertainty. How could this have happened? What do you think is the underlying trend?

I could speculate with a few observations. Men have not yet recovered from the feminist movement. This shift needed to happen. Modern women have truly taken their power back. They feel equal to males in many instances and continue to fight for their well-deserved rights. What women wanted was equality with men, for men to listen and become more vulnerable but not passive.

This response has left men in pain. We males have unfinished business with one another. Who are we? Where do we go from here? Perhaps you feel there is nothing to change. Today’s men are fine. Let it be. I know the only thing that is inevitable is change. Unless we become more aware and conscious and are willing to claim our lives then the next generation will have no role models. The peaceful warrior will have vanished.

I’m certain that the modern male’s uncertainty is not respected by women. They tell me this frequently. Women still respect a strong man with an open heart. Would it be possible today for men to talk about male issues without feeling threatened? Not in a pub or at the footy match but in a safe non-judgemental environment. Men need men to challenge and support masculinity, to take our power back and initiate passionate dialogue. We need to speak our truth and resolve our issues with both women and men.

I personally feel passionate about coaching men on their issues. I also desire for men to gather and really talk. Not just a whinging session but with profound transformational process. Can you feel how important this is? Look below for a life changing opportunity after the exercise.

Exercise

Close your eyes and see each circle, number and specific colour in your inner imagination. Slowly count backwards from 7-1 visioning each circle’s colour. When you get to 1 (violet) you have entered the alpha state.

Keeping your eyes closed, count backward from 21-1 and then ask yourself the following questions….

Do you bounce your great ideas off others? Mother?
Do you experience an inner calling or pulsation? Do you trust it?
Do you avoid strong women?
Do you feel men support each other with emotional issues and negative feelings?
Do you feel lost? Like a runaway train of uncertainty?
Are you certain of your destiny? Of your masculine sexual identity?

Write down your answers and read below.

Opportunity for Men

Early in my career I facilitated many workshops with men and they loved them and so did I. Sadly the men’s movement burnt out quickly and never matched the feminist movement. What women achieved was an absolute miracle. We males have a way to go to match this growth. Let’s get started this year before we get stuck into the holiday season.

In addition to your concerns this is what I envision for us:

- Become stronger, more grounded and present in your sexual identity.

- Let’s deal with our father issues and let go

- Career, power and money issues

- 21^st Century sexual issues

- Reclaim the warrior within

- Life after death

- Sex vs. love making

- How about my broken heart?

- Leadership and change

- Response to feminism

- Are long term relationships worth the pain?

- Finishing your mother stuff

- What’s on your mind?

Re: Men, please call or email me. M: 0417 992 749 Email: robert@robertkirby.com

Details:

Men Empowering Men

Date: Saturday, 3^rd December, 2011

Time: 8:30 am – 5:30 pm

Your Ocean of Energy, Where did it go?

Wed, 27 Jul 2011 00:48:00 GMT

Ever wonder why kids never run out of energy? If they are not suppressed, they just keep flowing from moment to moment. Research (UCLA) shows their creativity peaks at 5 years of age. Why?

Life’s dynamics requires social adaptation that causes us to “hold back”. Most of us eventually put our foot on the brake. Risks, dreams and passion get toned down. Is your spontaneity and creative freedom a thing of the past? Where has it gone?

The truth is that the creative force is still within you. It’s better than ever because you possess wisdom and experience now that you did not possess as a child. If you are like most people, energy and consciousness is bound to prior incidents or moments of crisis and trauma.

This means your Soul Power is scattered in a time warp that you now need back in the present. It’s like driving your car with two flat tyres. Everything becomes a struggle and you slow way down. The slower your energy of life, the more difficult your life becomes. And even worse, you can’t think your way out of it. Negotiation with the Universe is not an option. It only responds to truth. The more stress and fear, the more you go into your head and become moody, cranky and frustrated (disconnected).

Living at the Speed of Light

The faster the Energy of Life, in other words, the closer you get to the speed of light, the more actual time you have to get everything done. The key to healing is to increase the speed of your life force. The accelerated speed is only the result of freed up energy that was bound up in the past. This in turn massively increases consciousness. Your spirit will soon soar like an eagle and your heart will explode with passion and creative ideas. Sound good? You’re damn right it does!

Down to Earth

No expansion of this magnitude is possible unless you are connected to the ground and to your own reason and will. The “Inner person” will take over and you will no longer look outside yourself for answers. Your process must include clearing up old incidents, traumas and destructive habits. You will then well and truly become free (detached) and the Doors of Providence will open to your dreams….

Psychology of Happiness

Wed, 20 Jul 2011 07:29:00 GMT

Un-happiness breeds more of the same.

Why so serious? Don’t worry, Be Happy. Numerous surveys show people are waiting for something to happen so they can then be happy. It just so happens that they are often waiting their entire lives. Why? The human mind is tricky. Achieve one goal & the ego puts another obstacle in your path.

If you can’t smell the roses along the way love the gift of life and embrace all the challenges as stepping stones, then you will always find something to be unhappy about. Unhappiness breeds more of the same and attracts complainers and negativity into your life.

Since worry, fear and self-doubt is a habit that leads to unhappiness, it must be broken. How?

First and foremost, positive psychology tells us to make Happiness, cheerfulness and Faith our first priority:

Drive all the fear and anxiety out of your heart. Identify all the things that can justify your being happy right now. Then claim your life as a happy and content Being.
Make sure you are spending your days doing what you love.
Be responsible; self-confront everything in your life that is not in truth.
Have Faith in the unknown and acquire absolute knowing that what you expect is something wonderful.

Get support to sort out your Mental, Physical and Spiritual health now. Don’t wait! Your lifetime of happiness is dependent on it.

Do you want to be happy right now? watch this video…

Being Yourself or Being Stuck

Thu, 14 Jul 2011 05:56:00 GMT

The worst feeling in life is being chronically stuck! It leaves a foul taste in your mouth when life is not moving forward. This dullness is caused by your “always knowing” the answer out of habit. This puts the brake on your growth and success. It usually alienates people unless they are desperate or robots. “Not knowing” opens the doorway to humility. This requires radical honesty with yourself. Denial keeps us from true self-appraisal and from building momentum.

The only way out of this nightmare is “Being Oneself.” This necessitates radical letting go. What are you so attached to that you must deny the truth? Detachment from this posture creates a beautiful shift.

You will then quickly be in touch with grudges you still have toward others and guilt about prior mistakes and those that you have hurt or betrayed. The forgiveness process is neither a ritual nor a mechanical choice. It frees your Emotional Energy to be in the Present Moment. It opens a new channel of creative abilities and a multitude of opportunities.

“Absolute knowing”, therefore is the Wisdom you have been seeking. It will now seek you. I mean it will emerge from within. As the painfulness of being stuck lifts like a London fog, your Inner Light will shine brightly. Your journey from Always Knowing into Not Knowing into Absolute Knowing takes you here to Eternity. Your absolute knowing amounts to nothing more than Being yourself.

How Solid is your Universe?

Wed, 06 Jul 2011 05:23:00 GMT

In these uncertain times it’s more important to know where you stand. Remember your Universe is unique to you. If your inner ground (Inner person) is not anchored to this Earth then your outer person will be blown away by the wind storm.

Remember that birds of a feather flock together. If your foundations are shaking, then you will attract like-minded people. They will confirm your doubt and fear, your negativity or your lack of connectedness. They will collude with you that it’s not your fault or theirs.

If you wish your Universe to be more solid and anchored in truth, then you must dissolve the blocks and create a breakthrough into the Core of your Being. This requires you to have the courage to self- confront, to be willing to go on an inward journey of depth to find the True meaning of your Life and destination.

If you avoid this, you will never be at Peace. You won’t take yourself seriously and neither will others. When you get clear on your inner most feelings, your values will be rock solid. Your self- love and self-respect will permeate the environment. Your Life’s mission will become crystal clear and that which you seek will now seek you. Those dramas and stressful patterns that overwhelm you will flee from you. What a relief!

This is the personal Universe you can create. The more you live in Truth, the more your dreams manifest effortlessly. How can one achieve this state? This journey requires the outer person (Will) to surrender to the Inner person (Being). Your detachment allows a deep reservoir of Wisdom, Faith and Passion to emerge. You must have the courage to get out of your own way, confront your Blind spots, righteousness, selfishness, greed, control or manipulation. These issues are caused by traumas and old stuff that needs to be uprooted. This journey is well worth the effort and the fruits of your labour will exceed your greatest expectations!

Be sure to see our upcoming Core Energetics free workshop here

Don’t Buy Into the Media Hype - Bad News sells !!

Sat, 02 Jul 2011 07:16:00 GMT

Bad News sells newspapers and increases ratings on TV and Radio. Don’t you dare buy into the Media Hype or it will sink you personally. It won’t sink those that are totally present and focused on their goals.

Australia owns one of the most robust economies in the world.

If we are not careful, the Media will talk us into recession. They want that!

America needed a meltdown to wake up. The property values had to return to a stable level. Banks had to get real about lending. Normal unemployment was 5%, it is now 9%. It will come down once again if the Media would stop causing a panic and the 91% who are working will begin spending as normal. As normal for America, the richest country in the world. Remember 5% of the world’s population still holds 50% of the world’s wealth.

The National debt has always been there. No one made a fuss till the recession came.

Let us not panic.

Human Beings are resourceful. We have survived on this planet for many thousands of years. We have to return to the solid fundamentals of effective commerce. We know how to do this, we have already done it again and again! We as free Nations have embodied success!

Take effective action.

Successful people, Organisations, and Countries take action 7 days a week. The more effective and efficient the action, the faster we will bounce back. You can do your best and most creative action by being 100% present. Focused people do great things!

How is your attention divided?

Do present time problems and /or old traumas pull you out of the present moment? If so, you are like most people. This along with blaming outside circumstances for our lack of peace/happiness is the cause of our powerlessness and disassociation from laser like focus and the doorway of our creative genius.

somethings to consider

A timely "reality check" article here in The Australian

Here's another way we can take action now

How to come back from the brink of Death

Fri, 22 Jul 2011 06:18:00 GMT

A friend of mine, Holly Riley, has truly come back from the brink of death.

The doctors had all but given up on her. She had almost resigned to dying
if it hadn't been for that little flicker of hope that maybe all is not lost if she
could just find that something that has helped Lance Armstrong combat cancer and countless other's combat terminal illnesses.

If she could just find what makes some people fight and others give up.
She discovered how childhood traumas and past experiences had eventually caught up with her and brought her close to death.

Holly wrote ''Allowing', a compelling true story about courage and miracles.
With her back to the wall, Holly's faith in life opened a doorway to an impossible healing that defies logic and medical science. I could not put it down.

If you want to find out more about Holly Riley www.hollyriley.com It is truly one of the best explanations what core energetics and bioenergetics healing work can achieve that modern medicine can't.

4 FREE workshops, Four Pillar programs and 100s of transformations later...

Fri, 25 Mar 2011 04:07:00 GMT

It has been an exciting time since I started the new look Robert Kirby Int. I've held 4 free Personal Transformation Intensives and 5 Pillars of the Four Pillar program. 100s of people have transformed right before my eyes and keep transforming. I've had wonderful feedback from all participants and I would like to share one with you here:

Vinny Dewan came to me with chronic spinal problems and depression and was on anti depressant medication. After attending my PTi program in February, the Pillar program and Constellation weekend as well as having private sessions, he has experienced a mega shift in how he feels about himself and the world around him. He no longer takes anti depressants or pain medication. Although he still has occasional back pain his depression has totally lifted and he is eager to take back control of his life.

I'm currently writing an article about 'Trauma and Depression' so stay tuned.

Welcome to the new website and blog!

Fri, 25 Mar 2011 01:52:00 GMT

Welcome!

Hi friends

I’m back. After a ten year hiatus training therapists in Core Energetics and Heart Energetics I am ready to step out once again to deliver even more groundbreaking work. I would love to share with you The Four Pillars ~ some amazingly powerful processes and an inspiring synthesis of what I have learned & discovered about human beings and their extraordinary potential.

The Four Pillars training is life changing and will be delivered in a public and corporate format. Prepare yourself for major transformation. In the meantime, why not give yourself a gift of a private consultation or coaching session?

Never lose sight of the fact that NOTHING HAPPENS WITHOUT A BIG DREAM. What’s yours? Is it time to update & refine it? Please send me an update on your life or introduce yourself to me and your big dream so that I can support you...I look forward to connecting and reconnecting.