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Why Change Does Not Last

Part 2 Process Work & Embodied Transformation

This Report is part 2 of a 3 part series

From reading part 1 you know now that quick change is superficial and temporary. The body & mind, soul & life force must be included if the (layered) process is to create actual transformation. But how is this possible?

First determine if you really want to change. You may not want to. In fact most people do not want to change because it removes their excuses. Remember you have embodied your old way of being. So it will not go away without a fight. You must first embrace (accept) your old way of being.

Secondly, clarify your intention to create something better. Ask yourself, “What is my unconscious negative intention? “ You must know first, how you take yourself out. Then you know what you are up against.

Thirdly, skilled character analysis will clearly identify your strengths and weaknesses as well as your core issues.

Fourthly, an accurate body reading will identify your greatest resources of energetic power which accelerates transformation of your embodied issues and frees your creative abilities.

Fifth, expose your disowned vulnerability. This means you allow this sub-personality, which you really need for wholeness, to come out of hiding.

Sixth, owning your negativity, shadow/reactive mind or darkness - in other words, admit the intentions of your lower-self.

Seventh, charge-discharge is a Bioenergetic process which frees and accelerates your life energy (particles) throughout & around your body. This is the most prolific method of changing beliefs in existence.

NOTE: Lasting change is only possible after an increase in speed to your life energy. This process will illuminate your soul’s destiny. This elevation in your emotional vibration will cause what you want to flow to you and what you hate will run away from you. This means you have embodied your new way of being.

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In Part 3 you will learn: Transition and Reality 

Part I - Theory & Cognition

The available theories today on change could choke forty elephants. Promises of a quick fix are abundant. Since the study of human transformation has been at the center of my life for well over two decades, I am qualified to warn you against being seduced by powerfully marketed programs that promise you quick change. These false promises have given the personal development field a suspicious reputation. Experienced and well trained facilitators and alternative therapists disclose to their clients and participants that transformation is layered.

Today even modern psychologists primarily work with cognitive behavioural therapy known as CBT. It uses brief intervention and then onto the medication. They work on issues or symptoms and not the cause of problems. The results are good but they do not last.

Another modality known as neuro-linguistic programing (NLP) is one of dozens of cognitive based work that ignore what is embodied. Various forms of group hype will also temporarily ignite someone’s faith.

WHY IS IT SO DIFFICULT TO CHANGE? 

Human behaviour is learned and modelled after others. Yes some of it is instinctive; however it is always based on unconscious drives and beliefs. They were put in place by conditioning from the environment (our families) and from intense overwhelming experiences that causes trauma.

Thoughts are generated by feelings that bubble up from the unconscious. They are often childish and immature. Our unconscious emotional turmoil or joy & happiness are generated from our bodies’ cellular memory and from its surrounding energy field.

Over time these beliefs and experiences create habits that are extremely tough to break. We become defended in both our identity and our character. We do this to protect ourselves from experiencing more pain, fear and doubt.

Accordingly, quick fix solution never, ever last because they cannot circumvent these deeply held patterns. You can take this to the bank. Avoid these theories & false promises like you would the plague.

So then, what critical cognitions (insights) should you take from this information? First and foremost that transformation is a process and not an event. And secondly, these processes are layered and must always include:

1)  your body & mind

2)  your soul

3)  your energy of life & consciousness ( awareness )

This is the comprehensive theory of transformation & lasting change that we are offering. The results we consistently achieve for people just like you will give you a new life & a fresh start. Interested? Please click here.

The Hero’s Journey

‘What happened to the male identity?’ Part 1 By Robert Kirby

Hey guys,

Have you observed how uncertain modern men are? The new generation of males seem to have confused open hearted vulnerability with passivity and uncertainty. How could this have happened? What do you think is the underlying trend?

I could speculate with a few observations. Men have not yet recovered from the feminist movement. This shift needed to happen. Modern women have truly taken their power back. They feel equal to males in many instances and continue to fight for their well-deserved rights. What women wanted was equality with men, for men to listen and become more vulnerable but not passive.

This response has left men in pain. We males have unfinished business with one another. Who are we? Where do we go from here? Perhaps you feel there is nothing to change. Today’s men are fine. Let it be. I know the only thing that is inevitable is change. Unless we become more aware and conscious and are willing to claim our lives then the next generation will have no role models. The peaceful warrior will have vanished.

I’m certain that the modern male’s uncertainty is not respected by women. They tell me this frequently. Women still respect a strong man with an open heart. Would it be possible today for men to talk about male issues without feeling threatened? Not in a pub or at the footy match but in a safe non-judgemental environment. Men need men to challenge and support masculinity, to take our power back and initiate passionate dialogue. We need to speak our truth and resolve our issues with both women and men.

I personally feel passionate about coaching men on their issues. I also desire for men to gather and really talk. Not just a whinging session but with profound transformational process. Can you feel how important this is? Look below for a life changing opportunity after the exercise.

Exercise

Close your eyes and see each circle, number and specific colour in your inner imagination. Slowly count backwards from 7-1 visioning each circle’s colour. When you get to 1 (violet) you have entered the alpha state.

Keeping your eyes closed, count backward from 21-1 and then ask yourself the following questions….

1. Do you bounce your great ideas off others? Mother?
2. Do you experience an inner calling or pulsation? Do you trust it?
3. Do you avoid strong women?
4. Do you feel men support each other with emotional issues and negative feelings?
5. Do you feel lost? Like a runaway train of uncertainty?
6. Are you certain of your destiny? Of your masculine sexual identity?

Write down your answers and read below.

Opportunity for Men

Early in my career I facilitated many workshops with men and they loved them and so did I. Sadly the men’s movement burnt out quickly and never matched the feminist movement. What women achieved was an absolute miracle. We males have a way to go to match this growth. Let’s get started this year before we get stuck into the holiday season.

In addition to your concerns this is what I envision for us:

-         Become stronger, more grounded and present in your sexual identity.

-         Let’s deal with our father issues and let go

-         Career, power and money issues

-         21^st Century sexual issues

-         Reclaim the warrior within

-         Life after death

-         Sex vs. love making

-         How about my broken heart?

-         Leadership and change

-         Response to feminism

-         Are long term relationships worth the pain?

-         Finishing your mother stuff

-         What’s on your mind?

Re:  Men, please call or email me. M: 0417 992 749  Email: robert@robertkirby.com

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Men Empowering Men

Date: Saturday, 3^rd December, 2011

Time: 8:30 am – 5:30 pm

Ever wonder why kids never run out of energy? If they are not suppressed, they just keep flowing from moment to moment. Research (UCLA) shows their creativity peaks at 5 years of age. Why?

Life’s dynamics requires social adaptation that causes us to “hold back”. Most of us eventually put our foot on the brake. Risks, dreams and passion get toned down. Is your spontaneity and creative freedom a thing of the past? Where has it gone?

The truth is that the creative force is still within you. It’s better than ever because you possess wisdom and experience now that you did not possess as a child. If you are like most people, energy and consciousness is bound to prior incidents or moments of crisis and trauma.

This means your Soul Power is scattered in a time warp that you now need back in the present. It’s like driving your car with two flat tyres. Everything becomes a struggle and you slow way down. The slower your energy of life, the more difficult your life becomes. And even worse, you can’t think your way out of it. Negotiation with the Universe is not an option. It only responds to truth. The more stress and fear, the more you go into your head and become moody, cranky and frustrated (disconnected).

Living at the Speed of Light

The faster the Energy of Life, in other words, the closer you get to the speed of light, the more actual time you have to get everything done. The key to healing is to increase the speed of your life force. The accelerated speed is only the result of freed up energy that was bound up in the past. This in turn massively increases consciousness. Your spirit will soon soar like an eagle and your heart will explode with passion and creative ideas. Sound good? You’re damn right it does!

Down to Earth

No expansion of this magnitude is possible unless you are connected to the ground and to your own reason and will. The “Inner person” will take over and you will no longer look outside yourself for answers. Your process must include clearing up old incidents, traumas and destructive habits. You will then well and truly become free (detached) and the Doors of Providence will open to your dreams….